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I find myself unable to write about the personal realm of relationships without first acknowledging this global back-drop of events that we are all living. So much is going on in our world! Like you, I have been intensely reflecting on all that this time of Covid-19 has revealed in our world – the sacrifices, . . . → Read More: Keep your relationship resentment-free Summer is finally here! Beauty is everywhere and I hope you’re finding opportunities to play in the sun. If you want to set yourself up for a satisfying summer vacation, read on for a personal tip that has served me in my relationship for years. Not every vacation is equal. —Shawn Anchor When vacations . . . → Read More: My best tip for a great vacation Change is hardest at the beginning, messiest in the middle and best at the end. ― Robin S. Sharma Change happens Even if you have a very stable relationship, you will experience the turbulence of change at times. If you and your partner are growing, then change is inevitable. And any change that one partner . . . → Read More: How to pull together (not apart) when things change No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. — Eleanor RooseveltThe challenge of owning our feelings As human beings, we have a tendency to blame others for our feelings when their behavior triggers our deep emotions. “You make me so mad when you….” “You make me feel guilty when you…” “You hurt my . . . → Read More: How to reduce reactivity & blame What people really need is a good listening to. -Mary Lou Casey A good alternative to nagging I was recently reminded of how beneficial a weekly “check-in and alignment meeting” with your partner can be. During a coaching session, my client expressed a concern that she was nagging her husband. This was having a negative . . . → Read More: The little meeting with your partner that can make a big difference  Comments are closed  communication, relationship skills  couple communication, couples, listen to your partner, listen to your spouse, marriage Often we have private conversations with ourselves about what others should and should not do. But we never make overt and open requests of these people. Subsequently, when they don’t do what we expect, we’re disappointed, resentful and angry. –Matthew Budd & Larry Rothstein The art of making effective requests We all need to enlist . . . → Read More: Reduce your frustration by making powerful requests Comments are closed Uncategorized couple communication, loving relationships, marriage, relationship advice, relationship coaching “Relationship skills do not come with genes, they come with practice.” — Harville Hendrix THE THREE C’S THAT COST YOU LOVE AND KILL ROMANCE In my work with clients and in my own relationships, I’ve seen over and over again the destructive power of these three behaviours: 1) Criticizing 2) Comparing and 3) Capitulating These . . . → Read More: 3 Obstacles to Love & How to Transform Them Comments are closed Uncategorized love, loving relationships, marriage, obstacles to love, relationship advice, relationship coaching I recently read a definition of love that really captivated me and validated my own experience in a long-term marriage. I came across this definition in a book review in the Economist magazine (Truly, madly, deeply). The book, In Praise of Love is based on a conversation between French philosopher Alain Badiou and French journalist . . . → Read More: Love is a commitment to live life from two perspectives One comment - (Comments are closed) Uncategorized commitment, committed relationships, conflict resolution, love, marriage, personal growth, relationships, two perspectives |
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