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Dear friends, Instead of my usual article, this post takes the form of a personal sharing. I’ll be taking a little pause in writing this newsletter and I wanted to fill you in on why. To do that, I’ve needed to revisit a bit of history. How it began June marked the 16th anniversary . . . → Read More: A personal update Have you ever had times of wondering if you and your partner have somehow “lost the magic”? If so, Valentine’s Day may not help. The hype surrounding Valentine’s Day highlights the kind of romance typical of the early days of a relationship — but not so much the longer term haul. You may be . . . → Read More: Where did the magic go? Something to think about “Even after all this time, The sun never says to the earth, ‘You owe me.’ Look what happens with A love like that. It lights the whole sky.” –Hafiz of Persia Reflection I live at the foot of Mt. Seymour in North Vancouver. Just minutes out my front . . . → Read More: A love like that  Comments are closed  Couples, Uncategorized, Valentine's Day  committed relationships, couples, love, loving relationships I recently facilitated some small group sharing on the topic of self-compassion. I had done some reading that inspired me to think about this topic in some new ways and I wanted to share that. However I was a little worried that the topic might not fly well in a mixed group. I . . . → Read More: What self-compassion is and isn’t Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships. — Stephen Covey It’s a universal experience I think it’s safe to say that we have all experienced a trust breakdown at some point in our lives. Some years ago I . . . → Read More: 7 Ways To Develop Trust With Others Comments are closed Uncategorized couples and trust, Ways to develop trust, what does trust mean, when to trust someone, when trust breaks down Often we have private conversations with ourselves about what others should and should not do. But we never make overt and open requests of these people. Subsequently, when they don’t do what we expect, we’re disappointed, resentful and angry. –Matthew Budd & Larry Rothstein The art of making effective requests We all need to enlist . . . → Read More: Reduce your frustration by making powerful requests Comments are closed Uncategorized couple communication, loving relationships, marriage, relationship advice, relationship coaching “Relationship skills do not come with genes, they come with practice.” — Harville Hendrix THE THREE C’S THAT COST YOU LOVE AND KILL ROMANCE In my work with clients and in my own relationships, I’ve seen over and over again the destructive power of these three behaviours: 1) Criticizing 2) Comparing and 3) Capitulating These . . . → Read More: 3 Obstacles to Love & How to Transform Them Comments are closed Uncategorized love, loving relationships, marriage, obstacles to love, relationship advice, relationship coaching “You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith.” — Mary Manin Morrissey Preventing a repeat of the past Many single and divorced men and women, who are dating and looking for a new relationship, harbour fears that they will repeat negative patterns from their past relationships. This is . . . → Read More: Dating Preparedness: How to make smart choices & avoid a repeat of the past Many of us struggle with the challenge of emotional reactivity in our relationships. Often clients that I talk with are reluctant to bring up difficult or sensitive topics with their partner because they are worried that she/he will react emotionally – perhaps with anger, with tears or by withdrawing and shutting them out. If their . . . → Read More: Beyond reactivity: Cultivating Spiritual Intelligence I recently read a definition of love that really captivated me and validated my own experience in a long-term marriage. I came across this definition in a book review in the Economist magazine (Truly, madly, deeply). The book, In Praise of Love is based on a conversation between French philosopher Alain Badiou and French journalist . . . → Read More: Love is a commitment to live life from two perspectives One comment - (Comments are closed) Uncategorized commitment, committed relationships, conflict resolution, love, marriage, personal growth, relationships, two perspectives |
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