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I find myself unable to write about the personal realm of relationships without first acknowledging this global back-drop of events that we are all living. So much is going on in our world! Like you, I have been intensely reflecting on all that this time of Covid-19 has revealed in our world – the sacrifices, . . . → Read More: Keep your relationship resentment-free Whether you are affected by the struggles of someone you care for – or are experiencing adversity yourself – it can be tough to find a way to be with the pain and suffering that life sometimes brings. I offer the following ruminations on what I’ve found to be helpful when adversity hits. Something to . . . → Read More: When adversity hits those you love Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. – Chinese Proverb Happy vacation-time! Have you had a chance to get away yet? Are you taking advantage of the longer days and sunny weekends? I hope you are honouring your need for rest and play — whether or not you’re able . . . → Read More: Make your whole summer feel like a vacation Summer is finally here! Beauty is everywhere and I hope you’re finding opportunities to play in the sun. If you want to set yourself up for a satisfying summer vacation, read on for a personal tip that has served me in my relationship for years. Not every vacation is equal. —Shawn Anchor When vacations . . . → Read More: My best tip for a great vacation It’s been ten years since I wrote the following article about the dynamics between mothers and their adult daughters. A recent re-read has inspired me to share it again – with a few updates – in honour of Mother’s Day. These ideas, inspired by the work of Deborah Tanen, have helped me be less . . . → Read More: Understanding mothers and daughters Change is hardest at the beginning, messiest in the middle and best at the end. ― Robin S. Sharma Change happens Even if you have a very stable relationship, you will experience the turbulence of change at times. If you and your partner are growing, then change is inevitable. And any change that one partner . . . → Read More: How to pull together (not apart) when things change No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. — Eleanor RooseveltThe challenge of owning our feelings As human beings, we have a tendency to blame others for our feelings when their behavior triggers our deep emotions. “You make me so mad when you….” “You make me feel guilty when you…” “You hurt my . . . → Read More: How to reduce reactivity & blame What people really need is a good listening to. -Mary Lou Casey A good alternative to nagging I was recently reminded of how beneficial a weekly “check-in and alignment meeting” with your partner can be. During a coaching session, my client expressed a concern that she was nagging her husband. This was having a negative . . . → Read More: The little meeting with your partner that can make a big difference  Comments are closed  communication, relationship skills  couple communication, couples, listen to your partner, listen to your spouse, marriage How might our relationships be different, if we gave up “being right” and sought instead to understand and connect? I think the impact is potentially profound – on a personal and a global level. Something to think about Attachment to being right creates suffering. When you have a choice to be right or to be . . . → Read More: It pays to give up being right Comments are closed communication cost of being right, couple communication, listening skills, listening to another's viewpoint |
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